Acceptance vs Resistance (EP 64: The Vegan Life Coach Podcast)

In this insightful episode, we answer the questions many people have when we say, “Accepting your body as it is right now is a prerequisite for transforming it…”


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“How can I accept something I want to change?”

“If I accept my body as it is, how will I ever lose weight?”

We’re talking about resistance vs acceptance, and how making this powerful shift is key for achieving all of your personal and professional goals and dreams.

Carl Yung said, “We must ACCEPT what we want to change.” We’re telling you why and showing you HOW in episode 64 of the Vegan Life Coach Podcast!

Show Notes:

  • Defining Resistance: The refusal to accept or comply with something; the attempt to prevent something by action or argument
    • When we resist, we are firmly holding to what we want the truth to be. It is arguing with reality. When we spend our energy wishing something was different, we are wasting our time…wasting that energy.
      • Examples: 
        • Hitting the snooze button
        • Comparing yourself to others, wishing you had their legs,          personality, money, etc.
        • Getting angry about the traffic jam making you late for work
        • Worrying about things that are out of your control
        • Ignoring or distracting from negative emotions (eg a Netflix binge with a pint of coconut milk ice cream)
    • Resistance doesn’t change reality; It only makes it harder.
    • Humans are built for resistance. Our bodies and minds love homeostasis. So, overriding that can be difficult and is likely why we keep ourselves in that state, even though it causes us so much suffering. If I could choose a superpower, it would be Acceptance because it is simple but NOT easy.
  • Defining Acceptance:  Act of taking or receiving something offered; willingness to tolerate a difficult or unpleasant situation.
    • What acceptance is NOT:  
      • Giving Up
      • Condoning
      • Liking or Enjoying
    • What acceptance is:
      • Active: It is a practice. It is a choice to allow reality to flow.
      • Understanding that reality just is and that there is a way through it if you don’t like it.
      • An important part of mindfulness:  The mind is fully engaged in what is, what is happening, and what we are doing and moving through without judgment of ourselves or the situation.
    • Why is acceptance important in the change process?
      • Carl Jung: We must ACCEPT what we want to change.  
      • Accepting reality allows us to look at it honestly and make a plan based on reality and NOT on what we wish reality was.
      • Acceptance empowers us to make the next move.
    • How do we move from resistance to acceptance?
      • “Accept then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you’ve chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.” –Eckhart Tolle
      • Ask yourself some questions:
        • What is the impact of resistance in this situation?
        • Am I engaging in the behaviour of resistance?  Arguing with reality: Wishing, worrying, comparing, refusing
        • Am I feeling the resistance through my emotions?  Anger, resentment, anxiety
        • What if I act as if I chose this situation?  How would that change things for me?
        • How would this change if I allowed reality to be exactly what it is in this moment?
      • Practical Strategies:
        • Take a pause when you find yourself engaged in resistance:  Compassion and Curiosity
        • Self-Empowerment Coaching system with a desired outcome of acceptance
        • Journaling
        • Mantra:  I accept reality as it is.  Resistance is futile.  I can only change what I accept.


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